In the wake of mental health awareness week, as well as thanksgiving, we thought it beneficial to serve as loving reminder to not only be patient with yourself, but treat yourself as you would a friend, on and off stage.

As singers, many of us can make the mistake of thinking that they weren’t born with the ‘talent’ to become a good singer. This lack of self esteem can prove to be the root of utter self-destruction. If we ourselves hold our own voice back, then we’re ridding ourselves of the chance to reach our vocal potential. As well as this, the audience loses a breathtaking performance that - in another world, could’ve happened. If we only let ourselves raise our voice.

Through this post, I hope to shed some more light on how better to cherish the voice you’ve been gifted, and in doing so, increase your overall musical (and nonmusical) confidence. Let’s get to it!

Step One: Rejoice!

Rejoice! Your voice is a magical instrument who nobody else has the joy of having. Like any good story, the character (or you) are gifted an incredibly powerful item which you have the potential to master. Think Luke Skywalker, Harry Potter, or any one of the (well-written) heroes who have to train, work hard, and strive for the power they want. You have the potential: now you have to start your musical journey.

Step Two: Find a Mentor

Although having a music teacher isn’t required to develop a healthy singing technique and an appreciation for your own voice, it is extremely helpful. Most of us like what we’re good at, and like things we’re bad at a little less. Having an experienced mentor by your side can help accelerate your growth. After all, when you see your hard work paying off and are getting the encouragement you need, you can trust in your ability to reach your musical goals.

For those in and around Oakville, I’d suggest coming to check out Omari Music Studios! Being a student here myself, I can’t say enough about the wonderful community I have here. It’s my (and many others) safe place to explore ourselves musically, take risks, and share a passion for music. If you’re interested in a trial class, go check out our website linked below! We’d love to have you as part of our family!

Step Three: Embrace Failure as a Learning Experience

Just like any hero, you need to encounter failure. It’s the sum of the hero’s experiences (both good and bad) that shape the character into who they are at the end of the story. Greatwritingtips on tumblr puts it this way: “You’re characters are like geodes. If you want to see what they’re really made of, you must break them.” Kind of aggressive, but you get the point: we can’t grow without struggle. And everything requires sacrifice.

So, raise your voice. Don’t let the fear of making a mistake stifle you into silence. Because the only way to actually improve is to do it. So if your voice cracks when singing a high note, you’re one less crack away from getting it. And, if you’re unable to sustain a note for a given amount of time, maybe it’s a subtle reminder to work more on your breath support. Every failure brings you one step closer to success, and I firmly believe a voice you find beautiful is within your reach. You just need persistence, and a sprinkle of faith to get it.

Step Four: Never Compare Yourself to Others

Einstein once said “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree… It will live it’s whole life believing that it’s stupid!” Just look around: are any of us the exact same? Have we had the same life experiences? Do we have the same skills and talents? Besides sharing a few things in common, we could never share everything. Which means that you are the only you in existence. Knowing that, it’d be ridiculous to compare ourselves to others. Physically, we’re built differently. And we have our vocal limits. And so does everyone else.

Step Five (and my favorite): Remember You’re an Audience Member as Well!

Contrary to popular belief, someone more experienced in singing than you is not a curse. Beyonce is not making you look bad! She’s adding value to this world through her art, and also serving as a figure for you to look up to. That means the singer you’re competing against is NOT your enemy, but someone alongside you in your mission to share the gift of music! They’re human, and if they’re giving the world something to applaud, that’s a gift to you as well. So praise others for their performances, be generous with encouragement, and you’ll find the same things reflected back at you (three cheers for karma!).

In Summary

Step One: Rejoice!
Step Two: Find a mentor.
Step Three: Embrace failure as a learning experience.
Step Four: Never compare yourself to others. And finally,
Step Five: Remember you’re an audience member as well.

So that concludes our five tips on how to better love your voice! Be patient, have faith, and be sure to have lots of fun in the process. See you on stage!